Sex – the culmination of pleasure, and a very important part for most relationships! The secret to creating the perfect bedroom experience lies in the confidence boost you give yourself before and during sex.
*Tips are sorted in no particular order and can be done separately.
Read time: approximately 14 minutes
11 Ways to Boost Your Sexuality and Confidence During Sex
“Flip the Switch” Into A Focused Mindset
"Set the Table” to Turn on Your Sensuality
“Switch to an Orgasmic Focus”
“Reach for the Stars” to Build Confidence
“Dress” for the Occasion
“Lose Yourself” in The Moment
“Let Go” of What You Think Should be
If you’ve got some kind of idea of what your partner would like you to do in bed, or you’re looking forward to your sexual encounter because you know you’ll get something that you’ve wanted, your expectations may affect how good the actual experience feels.
There is nothing as big as a turn-off, as a huge disappointment. And, you know, if you will feel disappointed, you definitely won’t feel confident, which will affect the whole experience.
One thing you can do is have a “no expectations” mentality when you’re having sex. Don’t anticipate anything, so that you can have a true sexual encounter, where everything can happen.
But, if you do have some expectations, be sure that you are the one that makes them happen. Either by taking action yourself or by communicating to your partner.
If you want something – ask! Express your desires. But remember that not always you will receive what you asked for, so be sure to accept any answer. Don’t pressure your partner, as it might kill the moment.
The best route to take, when you wish to tell what you want, is to have a mutual conversation about your fantasies – and do this before you intend to have sex, not in the heat of the moment.
And an amazing ice-breaker for such talks, are the Naughty Conversations – a collection of 100 questions about sex, fantasies and desires. Let them do the asking, so you don’t have to!
“Be Honest” to your partner and yourself
“Take Charge” of the Action
“Be Willing to Take Risks”
Communicate your desires with your partner. It may turn out that you both want the same thing!
Take small steps. Maybe you want to try out a new toy on your partner? Then, for example, try to mimic this toy with your hands and ask your partner, if he/she liked it. If the answer was “yes” – propose trying out the toy.
- Maybe there is a fantasy you wish to realize with your partner, but don’t know how to express it? Then you could show it! Find a blog post or a porn clip – show it to your partner and just ask, is this something that is a turn on or not?
- Lastly, you can just go all in – just do what you wish to do! But, in this case, remember, that it can be a win or miss. It might be the best thing ever, but in the meantime, be prepared to accept “no”, if your partner is not happy with this surprise.