Relationships are never easy. There’s always going to be something that challenges your bond, whether it’s distance, communication issues, disloyalty, or, in this case, a lack of time.
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Prepare for Presence: How to Connect with a Busy Partner
1. Communicate How You Feel
First things first. Everyone deserves to have their needs met in a relationship. If your partner’s busy schedule is bothering you, communicate this to them.
2. Make Use Of TechnologyWhile technology can drive a wedge between couples, it can also be a tool for the greater good. Partners who spend a lot of time away from home may not be able to physically hang out with you, but that doesn’t mean you can’t bond over live video, texts, and, of course, memes.
3. Run Errands TogetherSometimes, you just have to find new ways to connect. If a coffee run or grocery shop is the only way you’ll get to spend quality time together during the day, take that and make the most of it.
4. Ritualize Mealtimes TogetherNo matter how busy your partner is, time should always be made for the important things in life. And by important things, we mean eating!
5. Keep Yourself BusyWhen the absence of your partner starts to feel too overwhelming, it might be time to start picking up your own busybody habits. While initially, it may feel like a pointless distraction, eventually small hobbies can become important components of your personal life that you derive real meaning from.
6. Plan Exciting Dates or Getaways
If your partner is a busybody, spontaneous dates can just about fly out of the window. To ensure that you both get to spend enough quality time together, planned dates are key.
7. Schedule Time TogetherWhile we’re on the topic of scheduled mealtimes, let’s focus on scheduled quality time in general. For people who lead busy lives, a great schedule is key to keeping the peace.
By setting aside time every week to do couple-y things, you can experience the constancy of a regular relationship without hampering your partner’s demanding lifestyle.
8. Make Sex A Priority
If your partner is busy, the chances are that sex takes a back seat. Now, we’re not saying that you need to calendarize a seduction session, but you do need to prioritize sex.
9. Extend Some UnderstandingNot being able to spend a lot of time together can be just as tough on your partner as it is on you. Assuming your relationship foundation is solid enough for you both to willingly make this sacrifice, practicing empathy and understanding for the other’s situation is a healthy thing to do.
10. Assess Your RelationshipLook, everyone has a different definition of what a healthy, functional relationship looks like. Some people can cope with not seeing their partner every day—others not.