Would you think that all you need for a sensual massage is good technique? Yes, hand work is a part of it, but to create a truly intimate and sensual experience you need to prepare, to communicate and to be present in the moment.
A successful massage is a lot like a good date. It starts with setting the right mood, then progresses to making your partner feel comfortable and desired before finally achieving that perfect release of tension in the form of deep relaxation. And just as there are so many different types of dates, there are also endless variations on how to give a massage. In this blog post we will explore 7 steps for giving an amazing massage- from preparing beforehand to finishing off with some aftercare!
The Sensual Massage: 7 steps for an amazing massage for couples
BEFORE THE MASSAGEIn order to have an enjoyable time together, it's important that you both take care of yourselves and get into the right mindset before diving in. Remember: happy partners make happy massages! You can read more about these 7 steps and other helpful tips below. If you've ever considered giving your lover a massage but felt uncertain about how to begin, this article will give you the information and tools required for an enjoyable experience.
For many of us, one of the first places we discover our sensuality is through a touch – which basically is a form of a massage. Perhaps someone taught us how wonderful it feels to be touched in this way or perhaps we experimented on our own with a friend or partner… One thing's for sure – if you are considering delving further into sexual adventures with your partner or spouse, learning to give them a sexy massage is the perfect place to start!
Before reading any further about massage techniques, let us take a moment to define what makes the perfect sexy massage.
WHAT MAKES THE PERFECT MASSAGE (for couples)The perfect sexy massage is something that both you and your partner can enjoy and will spice up your relationship. It is not designed purely for the benefit of one partner, so it's important that you have a discussion with both of you being in agreement on all steps involved in this activity. It's not about 'giving’ a sexy massage to your partner, it's about creating a sexy massage together.
PREPARATIONBefore giving a sexy massage, think about what type of mood you want to create; make sure that there is plenty of time for both of you to enjoy the massage and that there are no distractions. Light incense, use sexy music, dim the lights or light candles.
1. SET THE MOOD FOR THE MASSAGE
The massage environment can make or break the massage. To ensure your sexy oiled-up massage goes exactly how you want it, be sure to take some time at least one day before your sexy couples massage, to set the mood for what comes next! With proper planning and forethought, you will surely set the stage for a sexy good time.
Some sexy ways to help get the mood ready include setting up romantic lighting in your bedroom or bathroom (or wherever you're playing!) Dimming the lights is always sexy; try using scented candles all around or burning incense. Set out towels that are soft and inviting on an ottoman or other furniture where you'll be massaging your partner. Be sure they are big enough so that one may be folded over the other for your partner's head, and that they are fluffy and inviting.
Freshen up the air with sexy aromatic sprays or even sexy perfumes/colognes! Vanilla is always sexy so try using some vanilla scented candles or oils to lightly perfume the room. There are sexy scents like lavender associated with sensual massage so if you want to go all out you might also use an essential oil version of these sexy smells as well.
2. USE A MASSAGE OILWe have noted this in the previous steps, but just is so important it cannot be stressed enough - massage without a massage oil just won't pleasant.
3. RELAX YOUR PARTNER
4. START FROM THE TOP
The sensual massage is about starting out slow, includes uncovering their body, and building up to a boil, so remember that your partner might feeling vulnerable during this time.
This means you need to take extra care in providing them with a smooth transition from start to finish. It also means that you should communicate constantly with them throughout the entire sexy massage. Even if they're silent, ask them frequently if they want to continue or what you should do next.
If your partner is still dressed, be sure to be the one, who undresses him/her, and you can take your time in this step. Make sure your strokes are smooth and long, using your entire hand. Emphasize the sexy parts by slowly moving up and down your partners’ legs.
After massaging the thighs, give attention to other places on the body that are normally overlooked during sex. Run your fingers through their hair or tickle behind the ear... kiss him/her on the shoulder... rub his/her nipples... run your fingernails along the feet.... The goal is to be intimate together without making anything sexual just yet!
5. EXPRESS YOURSELF
If you are not sure, what your partner will enjoy or not, first say what you want to do for them before trying it out on them by asking "Is this ok?" Be gentle with any vulnerable areas such as the back of knees and neck until your partner tells you otherwise. Ask him/her to let you know if it is too much pressure or not enough. Also, you can use your voice to build anticipation and tease your partner.
Lightly rubbing your hands with oil close to their skin without actually touching them will make them anticipate what's going to happen next, making it sexier and more intimate. The other spectrum to light touches would be to rub your own body with your partner's body.
And do not rush. The massage should take a minimum of 10-15 minutes before you even think about touching the intimate body parts.